What do you want? Have you made your list? Does he have a list? <3

So, supposedly Kristin Bell's new show with Adam Brody, "Nobody Wants This" is supposed to reflect what a "healthy relationship looks like."  It's gone viral, and that's what is being said about the show.  I'm only on episode two and there is definitely light and fun chemistry and banter between the two of them.  It's a comedy and it is complicated (he's a rabbi and she's an agnostic sex podcast host).  I'm excited to see how they will handle their differences, but most importantly what they see in each other.  I'd like that to be addressed as a human way of looking at romance on the TV screen - is that too much to ask?  (TV never really represents the human condition, does it?).

But, it got me thinking...what do YOU want in a man?  And what does a man want from you? And, are you on the same wavelength? These seem like simple questions but the truth is:  the answer is usually obscure and difficult to coalesce.

I do think wanting the same things help a relationship be more successful.  You never have to agree on everything…and be civil enough to agree to disagree.  But, here’s my list of what I want in a man and I am wondering if you’ve written your list down or said it aloud to your partner?

1. I want him to take charge, but also listen.
2. I want him to be empathetic, but logical.
3. I want him to lead, but allow me to flourish.
4. I want him to be giving and sensible.
5. I want him to value himself, but also me.
6. I need him to love who I am, and appreciate me.

Now, what does a man want from YOU?  Does he value you?  Does he want these similar things from you?  My question is this: what the heck DO men want from women?  

I hope some of you will have some time to answer this question.  It seems I’m also in a bit of a pessimistic rut and need some insight.  Are there men out there who would like a relationship and not just a sexual encounter?  I know every person is a person and we each offer our differences…  But, I truly want to know…what is the motivation for men to get into relationships because lately, I’ve experienced a lack thereof.  

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I would love to hear if this resonates with you (women or men, alike!) or read your written thoughts on this topic by commenting below!